Tag Archives: self development

The Fine Line Between Arrogance And Humility!

Arrogance is such an ugly word and it is an even uglier attitude. I am ashamed to say that I have allowed this word to become my reality far too many times in my life and living. It is one of those things that can creep up on you before you even realize it’s there. Arrogance puts you in a place of looking down on others even when you are beneath them. It is a very unrealistic view of self and others that causes us to elevate self and lower others.

Most would say that the opposite of arrogance is humility, but we have to be careful with that one, because it is way too easy to have a humility that is fake, counterfeit and not real, which is an even greater form of arrogance.

Philippians 2:3-4 “3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; 4 do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.”

The reality is that we are all the creation of God and God has given each of us our own unique gifts, talents and blessings. God’s love, grace and power flow into each of our lives and as we learn to live in humility, it flows through our lives to others and brings us a fulfillment like nothing else can.

We have to be very careful not to become arrogant and think of ourselves, better, smarter or more valuable than others. We also have to be careful not to get caught up in a fake humility that does not take into account the value that God in us, places on each one of us. Either extreme is dangerous and keeps us from experiencing the miraculous power we were created in and for.

Take some time today to think about who you are in God as you think about God in you. Also take time to recognize who others are in God and honor God in them. There is a fine line between humility and arrogance and on that line we discover purpose, power and peace…

What Do You Want?

There is a pretty simple question we have to ask and answer, if we really want to experience the blessings we were created for. WHAT DO YOU WANT? It is surprising to me, how many people have not taken the time to really answer this question. Looking back on my own life, it is humbling to think about how many times I have failed to ask and answer this simple, but powerful question.

There is great power in INTENTION, but to figure out our intention we have to ask and answer the right questions and then follow up with action. We need to ask and answer the “What Do You Want” question everyday and often, multiple times throughout the day. There are a lot of different varieties of the question, but they are basically asking for the same thing. What do you want? What is your dream? What is the main desire of your life? What will make you happy? What is your intention? What inspires you? What are you passionate about? What do you want to create, manifest and make reality in your life?

This question is important, because it drives our thoughts and THOUGHTS ARE THINGS! The things we think about become our reality. The Scriptures teach that we were created in the image of our Creator, which means: WE WERE CREATED TO CREATE! The question is: “What Are You Creating?”

There are two worlds, one we can see and one we can’t see. One is physical and one is spiritual. We live in between these two worlds in what is a beautiful dance of co-existence of back and forth between the two. We are spiritual beings living our human experience in a physical body. The Bible says in Hebrews 11:1 – “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” This means that what is seen, begins it’s manifestation in what is unseen. We live in both places and in between and this is why asking and answering questions is so important and necessary.

Take some time today to ask and answer the question: WHAT DO I WANT? And think about the steps you can take to manifest and make reality what simply begins as a thought. You may just be surprised at the power you discover that has been placed within yourself to do the supernatural. And once you discover and tap into this CREATIVE power, this human experience takes on a whole new meaning as you begin to live in the blessings you were created for…

Where Does A Thought Come From?

I’ve been thinking about thinking and my thinking got me to wondering where in the universe does a thought come from? After a little research, I discovered there is no easy or difinitive answer to that question. I think a thought is a reaction to a combination of actions on our part. They seem to come from nowhere on a pretty much continual basis. They can work together or oppose each other and they are present regardless of my giving them attention or not.

You are not the creator of your thoughts, but you can be the controller. You have the opportunity to choose the thoughts you will empower, feed and grow. The way we empower, feed and grow a thought is by THINKING about it. If you don’t like the way a thought makes you feel, then you can make a choice to let it go and grab another to empower with your thinking and attention.

YOU HAVE THE POWER OF CHOICE! We have been given a very amazing gift by being able to choose and divide for ourselves. Don’t give this power to anyone else and don’t waste this power by not utilizing it. Pay attention to your thoughts and choose to feed and grow the one’s that are going to make your life better by THINKING about them…

YOU EMPOWER, FEED AND GROW WHAT YOU CHOOSE! This may seem a little repetitive, but we need to realise, understand and apply the power of our choice. What you CHOOSE you EMPOWER. What you empower you feed and what you feed you grow. It really is that simple. Choice = Power…

YOU ARE IN CONTROL IF YOU WANT TO BE! One of my favorite teachers used to say: ”When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!” The key word is: YOU! Here’s the question you need to ask and answer: Do I want to control the direction of my life by choosing the thoughts I empower or do I want give that control to someone or something else?

I’m not sure where a thought comes from, but I know and believe we have the power to decide where it’s going and that makes all the difference!

What’s Better Than Happiness?

Remember the television show Hee Haw with Buck Owens and Roy Clark? They used to have a bit on the show where four miserable looking fellows would sing a song called “Gloom, Despair And Agony On Me!” The first line went something like this:

“Gloom, despair, and agony on me
Deep, dark depression, excessive misery
If it weren’t for bad luck, I’d have no luck at all
Gloom, despair, and agony on me”

This is the world we live in for a lot of people today. Our lives have become filled with stress, anxiety and over thinking. We often find ourselves caught up in the overwhelming feelings of frustration, depression and discontentment. This mental fatigue leads to all sorts of physical problems such as stomach problems, high blood pressure, headaches and muscle problems. This is not the life we were created for. I promise you – you were created for so much more!

While there is not an easy fix and no cure all potion, there are things we can do to help facilitate peace in our lives, which contributes to the harmony that brings balance and allows us to live with intention, rather than by happen stance.

I hear people say all the time: “I just want to be happy!” Did you know there is something better than happiness and it’s what you were created for? You may not always be happy, because some things go your way and some things don’t. Life does not always flow in the direction you choose, and this has a tendency to impact if we are happy or not. And while you can’t always be happy, you can always have joy. Joy is what you were created for, it is your human experience birthrite. You were created in joy and for joy. When you realize this and believe this, it helps you to stay in step with your created purpose and automatically helps you to be in a better place to fulfill your dreams and experience your desires.

Joy tells me that even when things are not going the way I want them to, that there is still a purpose and if I will trust in that purpose and keep a right attitude, life will adjust and come around to where it needs to be. In the Old Testament book of Proverbs 17:22 says: “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

Joy says: “I am just happy to be alive with another day of opportunity to experience blessings.” Joy helps you to focus on what you do have, rather than what you don’t have. Joy helps you to understand that feelings are just that – feelings and you ultimately have the power to choose how you are going to feel.

Whenever you find yourself getting out of alignment, take a moment to step outside all of it and remind yourself: I am joy, I was created in joy and for joy. Joy is what I was born for, it belongs to me and I belong to it. Joy helps me see things more clearly, experience things more honestly and grow through things that would normally try to take me out.

Take The Time!

The most precious commodity that we possess in this present life is TIME. We all have the same allotment of seconds, minutes and hours everyday and once todays is used up, you cannot get it back. The good news is: Tomorrow you get a whole new twenty four hours to do it all over again.

I have often said and have heard other people say: “I just wish I had the time!” And when I really stop to think about it, there is just one problem with that statement: The truth is that I do have the time, and it is ultimately up to me in how I choose to invest and spend that time. And if I don’t spend that time doing what I want to do, then there is really no one to blame, but myself.

The reality is that we are really good at making excuses and the “I just wish I had time” excuse is a very easy one for us to fall back on. Whatever time you have, is yours to take and do with as you please, so stop making excuses and start taking a look at your life from a different and higher perspective. Soon you will realize there are some things you need to start taking and making time for, which means that something else is going to have to slide in your busy life.

One of the questions we need to ask ourselves on a continual basis is: “WHAT REALLY MATTERS?” When we ask this question and answer it honestly, it brings tremendous clarity. Many times, I have discovered that what I convinced myself matters was not nearly as important and necessary as I had convinced myself. What really matters? The list is not anywhere near as big as we sometimes allow it to become. Ask and answer this question on a regular basis, so that you can live life at the higher place you were created for.

Another good question to ask ourselves is: “WHAT DIFFERENCE IS THIS GOING TO MAKE?” What difference is this going to make in a year, five years, fifty years, one hundred years??? Ask and answer this question honestly and it will help you gain perspective that will guide you to a much higher place of enlightenment and living.

There is more than enough time to do what you want to do, what you would love to do, but you are going to have to ask and answer some tough questions to rediscover that time and claim it for yourself. Stop believing the lie that you are too busy and discover the truth that there is time, it’s your time and you can choose to do what you want to with it. When you reclaim the time that is rightfully yours by “taking the time” you will be glad you did…

Three Steps To Funk Free Living!

If LIfe Stinks - Do Something About It!
If LIfe Stinks – Do Something About It!

John Miton said:  “The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.”  We like to play the blame game, but the blame game only keeps us in the prison of our own creation.  The truth most of the time, is that we are where we are and how we are, because this is the choice we have made.

If you are not happy, then it is because you have made a choice not to be happy.  If you are miserable, then it is because you have made a choice to be miserable.  You get to decide in every moment, what your response is going to be to that moment and you are the only one that can decide for you.

Instead of wasting energy, playing the games that just continue to get us nowhere, why not give a few of these ideas a try to see if they will not help to take your life to a better place?

1.)  Live In The Here And Now!  Yesterday is over and tomorrow is not guaranteed!  Usually when we are living in unhappiness, it is because we are dwelling on the past or anxious about the future.  The problem is that this robs us of the enjoyment of the here and now.

2.)  Practice “It Is What It Is” Living!  It is the thoughts about our situations, not our situations that make us unhappy.  Change your thoughts and magically your situations begin to follow the direction of your thinking.  You can argue with reality all day long and still lose the argument!

3.)  Take Responsibility!  It is true that happiness is a choice and you are the one that has the ability to do something about the thoughts that you are thinking.  Stop playing the blame game, take responsibility and enjoy the life that you have right now, right here in this very special moment.