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Changing Your Change!

So I’m on the road today and I really have not had a chance to sit down and write anything on the blog, but I have a very unofficial goal of trying to post something everyday, so I figured I would pull out my phone and see if I had a little something in my heart I could pump out.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I spent the whole first half of my life trying to change myself in an attempt to live up to what I thought was everyone else’s expectations. The problem with trying to change ourselves, is that it will almost always leave us disappointed, because there is always going some way, shape or form that the world uses to try and convince us that we need to change ourselves.

“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” -James 1:17

The reality is that you are who you are and trying to change who you are will leave you disappointed and frustrated every time. A better way of doing life and working for meaningful change is to change your actions and reactions. When we work to change our actions and reactions, a more authentic version of who we really are begins to show up.

If you stop and think about it, I’m sure you can identify at least three actions that you need to change. You know these action are destructive and costing you more than you want to pay. When we talk about needing to change who we are, we are really distracting ourselves from giving attention to the actions and reactions that need to change in our life and living.

Identify your three actions to change, make a plan on how you will do it and get to work. The changing of your actions will not necessarily change you, but it will allow the real you to emerge and you and others will find that the real you is a true blessing and gift to this world…

Enjoy The Game!

If life were a football game, then I would guess I am some where between half-time and third quarter. It’s hard to believe that the first half of my life is over with, gone and cannot be relived, but it is and I have to say: I have learned much and realize more clearly than ever before that there is still so much left for me to learn.

There is a lot that we can understand about life, but then there is also a lot that is a mystery. There are some things we are supposed to figure out and learn from and other things that we just need to allow to unfold at their own pace and pleasure.

I like the idea of just allowing things to unfold, because it takes a lot of self imposed pressure off. I don’t have to try so hard to make things work, I just need to get out of the way, enjoy the journey, watch and learn as life does it’s thing.

Not everything is about toil and hard work, sometimes it’s about working smarter, not harder. Who says we have to understand everything? Why do we feel like we have to explain everything away? Why can’t we just be content with saying: “I don’t know???”

Live life long enough and your expectations will be shattered and you will discover that it everything is still going to be okay, because our expectations are often very unreal anyway. We would do well to practice the art of “ALLOWING”. Allow life to be what life is going to be. Stop trying to manipulate, calculate and subjugate life into what you think it should be and simply learn to enjoy allowing life to be whatever it is going to be.

Learn the joy of sitting back and observing life and it’s beauty as it unfolds like a flower revealing the secrets it has hidden away some where deep inside of itself. Shut up, judge less and listen, really listen and you will be amazed at how your mind will open up and allow your heart to be touched by the mystery of life and living…

Like What You See?

Do you like what you see? Take a good, honest look at your life and the answer might surprise you, because it may be that you do like what you see and you didn’t think you were going to, or it may be that you do not like what you see and you thought you were going to love it. Most likely you will find yourself some where in between, with some things you love, some things you hate and some things some where in between.

I have found that the great majority of us, just sorta tend to tolerate life. We have moments we love and moments we hate, but most of us end up living the majority of our lives in the “blahs”, stuck somewhere in between love and hate. On some level, we know we were created for more, but we are just too tired to even try to think our way through it.

Every now and then though, something comes along and moves us out of our comfort zone to the place that we can’t help but take a moment or two to imagine what our life might look life if we were really living it the way we sometimes catch ourselves dreaming. We think about the person we could be, should be and would be, if???

Have you ever caught a glimpse of yourself, when you had it all together? Have you ever seen the “put together” you, full of energy, great ideas and experiencing the miraculous in all directions? When we see it, we believe it and for just a moment want it, but then life wakes us up and we go right back to thinking about what might have been?

Could I suggest a different way to look at life? Could I maybe point out another possibility of how we can possibly see things? Rather than thinking about would’ve, could’ve and should’ve – how about we see ourselves as God our Creator sees us?

In Ephesians 1:3-4 it says: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight.”

God sees us from beginning to end and from end to beginning! God sees the total picture of all that we’ve been through, survived and grown from. If you are still living, then you are still a work in progress, so don’t you dare give up and don’t for one moment entertain the thought of giving in, because God has great big amazing plans for you! See it, believe it, live it – you’ll be glad you did!