Do you ever get to the place in this human existence where you are just kinda tired of it all? You feel worn out, beat up and like no one really cares. And if truth be told, you are not so sure that you care anymore either? You seem to live under a mountain of stress and under an unrelenting and continual bombardment of negativity. There are so many people living miserable lives and they actually have the power to do something about it, but feel trapped, useless and defeated. That may be you, but I have discovered some good news that helped me to dig out from under all “the stuff” and that I believe can help you as well.
Live life long enough and you will discover that there are some things you can do something about and some things you can’t do anything about. And so, if you paying attention, you eventually come to realize it’s not so much about what you do, but how you see things that really is the point. One of my favorite teachers and mentors Wayne Dwyer used to teach it this way: “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” In other words: ”Perspective Matters!”
What is perspective? Perspective is seeing things from a particular point of view. If you don’t like what you are seeing, then change your point of view and keep changing your point of view until you get to where you need to be. Is it really that simple? Of course it is! We just love complicating things. You are in charge of your perspective. You decide who or what, you will allow to influence your day and the way you see things. Once you realize the incredible power you have at your disposal, your life will begin to change in miraculous and beautiful ways.
Here are a few tips to help you begin changing your perspective in a positive way:
1. Learn From Yesterday! Many times in life, we get stuck in the “could’ve, would’ve, and should’ves of life. We all make mistakes, commit sin and miss the mark. It does not do you or anyone else any good to continue beating up on yourself about your mistakes. I like to say: “If you learn from your mistake, then it was an education, not a waste.” Learn whatever you need to learn from yesterday, let it go and move on. This is one of the reasons that it is important to build quiet times for meditation, reflection and rest. We need time to think about and process what we are facing and dealing with. Carve time into your everyday life to go for a walk in nature, enjoy some time outside on a park bench or enjoy an afternoon nap.
2. Look For The Good In Today! There is something good in everyday, we just have to search until we find it and when it comes to digging out from under the heaviness that weighs us down, this is work that is very worth doing. One of the big things that helps me to find the good is GRATITUDE. Simply taking the time to think about all I have to be thankful for is a game changer. I encourage you to make a list and check it twice, three times if necessary. For me, this is where journaling comes in. It does not have to be complicated or technical. All you need to begin is notebook with a place to write down what you are grateful for, a space to record meaningful quotes that have spoken to you, a safe place to think about and plan the tasks you need to get done. This simple discipline, made a part of your daily ritual will pay off in very big ways.
3. Live Forward To Tomorrow! There is great power in having something to look forward to. And there is always something to look forward to. It may be the sun that is going to come out. It may be the work that is going to be finished. It may be the person we are going to see. It may be the goal that is achieved. The list could go on and on. The important thing is to think about and know “all of God’s children” have things to look forward to. Replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Look for and focus on the positive, the more we practice, the better we get. One of the things I’ve found that helps me move from negative to positive is “helping others”. There is just something about sharing an encouraging word, giving a pat on the back or taking the time to listen that not only blesses others, but makes my day better as well. We should always be on the lookout for how we can make someone else’s day better and then do it.
We can change our perspective and live much more positive and productive lives, if we will simply begin with the choice to change the way we look at and see things. Give it a try, you will be glad you did…