Three Big “C” Enemies!

There are lots of different enemies that work to pull us of off track, away from our goals and out of the blessed life, but three of the biggest and most detremental are: Criticism, Condemnation and Complaining.

Criticism, condemnation and complaining is disapproval of someone or something based on the perception of faults are mistakes. They work against us in a couple of different ways. There is the criticism, condemnation and complaining that comes from others and is expressed toward us and this can impact us in a very negative way, especially if taken in the wrong way. And there is also criticism, condemnation and complaining which comes from ourself and is expressed toward others, which can distract us from what really matters and hurt our ability to work as a team with others for everyone’s blessing and success.

Criticism, condemnation and complaining can be productive and positive or destructive and negative based on how it is delivered and received. The key to overcoming The Big “C” enemies is learning to deliver and receive in a constructive way, with the goal of making things better and more effective. The problem is that most people in the world today are often selfish and ego driven and use the Big “C” enemies to tear up and tear down, rather than build up and make better.

“Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” -Galatians 6:1

You cannot decide for anyone else, but you can decide for yourself. So here are a few tips to help you overcome the Big “C” enemies in the giving and the receiving:

1. Ask Yourself The Important Questions: 1.) Is it true? 2.) Does it matter? 3.) What difference does it make? To gain real clarity ask and answer this question honestly: What will this matter a year, 5 years, 100 years from now???

2. Learn what you need to learn about yourself and about others. Allow the Big “C” enemies to open your eyes, ears and heart to what is going on around you and you will be better equipped to handle whatever life decides to throw your way. Remember: That which does not kill you, makes you stronger!

3. Do your best to cut the Big “C” enemies out of your life as far as it depends on you. What good does it do you to criticize, condemn or complain about someone else? If you are honest with yourself, then it might give you a good feeling, but that good feeling is only temporary and doesn’t do anything to really lift us up to a better place, but it can do a lot to push us and others down. If there is a problem, confront it in an honest, up front and meaningful way – with the goal of making things better for all involved and don’t wait, do it when it needs to be done, so everyone can move on to better as soon as possible. If someone criticizies, condemns or complains about you, then be honest with yourself about it’s legitimacy or illegitimacy, learn what you need to learn and move on.

The Big “C” enemies are ugly, but not really all that powerful, unless and until we make them that way. So fight the good fight, learn, grow and overcome. You will be glad you did…

Control Is An Illusion

Someone said: “Control is an illusion!” Ellen Langer, the first woman to become tenured in psychology at Harvard, studied and taught about the illusion of control, where most of us tend to overestimate our ability to control events. In other words, we like to think we are in control, so we do what we must to convince ourselves we are in control, but it is really an illusion or a trick to try and make us feel better.

“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” -Proverbs 16:9

We cannot control the Universe any more than we can control time or the weather. The Universe is unfolding according to the divine plan of God. Any effort we make to try and exercise control can at best or worst, only frustrate and interrupt that plan, which in the long run just ends up costing us.

When we understand and accept that there are some things we can’t control and shouldn’t control, our lives experience the peace we were created for and begin to discover and focus on what we can and should control. We let go of our self will and are free to grab hold of what really matters.

Life is a dance with the Divine and when we learn to allow Divinity to lead, humanity becomes magical and blessed. Stop interfering, let go of the illusion of control, release your grasp on the idea that you and your ego know what is best and learn to relax into the gently unfolding plan of the Divine that brings you peace and blessing to share with others.

Live And Learn!

The way we know we are getting smarter as we get older is realizing that we don’t know near as much as we thought we did and there is only a small handful of things that we are absolutly sure about and the things that really matter are mostly based on faith.

“Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance…”. -Proverbs 1:5

As I get older, I am realizing that most of what I think I know is almost the exact opposite of what I thought I knew. We get a lot of it backwards and if we are honest, then we begin to understand that a lot of what we thought we had finally put right side up, is the wrong side down.

This world we are living in is trying to convince us that we live in a wasted time and a scary place, but the truth is we live in the most amazing of times and this world is an incredible place filled with miricles.

We need to learn to empty out all of the negative, so that we can open ourselves to all of the positve that is all around us. So the way to begin emptying the negative is by realizing there is so much we don’t know and the real fun in life is learning something new. And the really good news is that this Universe is so infinite that there is always something new to learn.

Amazed By Grace!

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