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Control Is An Illusion And Resilience Is A Gift!

I have been through a lot of different things in my life and the toughest things have always been the things that strip away and take my ability to exercise control. Fred Bubbers said: ““Control is merely an illusion we construct to cope with the chaos that is reality.” and I have to admit that sounds pretty much right.

We like the idea of control, until we have to face the reality that control is really something that we have very little of. Chaos on the other hand is the thing that we have more of than we can stand.

When ever we face times of chaos that remind us of just how limited our control really is, it for some reason causes us to start looking back on our lives and living. We love to revisit our successes and even appreciate looking to see what we learned from our failures. We like to tell ourselves that learning something from our failures means that they were not a waste, but served a higher purpose.

In the last week of my life, I have been doing a lot of this looking back and one thing that the Spirit has been helping me to see is RESILIANCE. Resilience is the ability to come back from whatever it is that attempts to take you down and out. It is the ability to take the bad and do something good with it, the setback and use it for a come back, so that you can grow into the something greater that you have always been created to become.

Live life long enough and no matter how good you think you are, something is going to come along and knock you off of your high horse. Whatever it is that knocks you off and down is not the end, unless you give up. Resilience is an unwillingness to give up and a willingness to make sure that you get yours.

When I watch my Granddaughter Addie Jo, I see resilience in its most pure form. She came into this world, laying in whatever position she was placed in, but almost immediately, she was dissatisfied with that position and started working to figure out ways to experience the freedom she was looking for. She cannot even talk, but she has learned that if she grunts long enough and loud enough, with a tear here or there that she can manipulate others to do for her, what she cannot do for herself.

She does not give up, she does not give in, until she gets what she wants. I have seen her doing it in a thousand different ways and as I look back on my life, I have seen where I have done the same thing in a million different ways.

Proverbs 23:7 says: “As a man thinks in His heart, so is he.” The heart is the heart of resilience. While we may not have control, we do have resilience and with resilience, pretty much anything is possible, so let’s get to it…

Putting Your Plan Together!

This week we’ve been talking about seeing and experiencing your perfect day and I thought it would be a good idea to give you a step by step break down on exactly how to do that in a more detailed way than what I have already covered.

“For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ Or what king, going out to encounter another king in war, will not sit down first and deliberate whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? And if not, while the other is yet a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks for terms of peace…” -Luke 14:28-33

First – Get A Picture In Your Head! What does your perfect day look like? What are you doing? Who are you talking to? Where are you headed? When do you plan to do what? Where is your motivation coming from? Once you get this picture in your head, the move to the next step.

Second – Break It Down! Let’s say you want to work on yourself physically, mentally and spiritually. Let’s take the physical – what does it mean you want to work on the physical? Let’s say you want to lose weight, ok, what will that take? Eating right and exercise! Now break that down by listing the steps you will need to take to make that happen for you. Do the same thing for the mental and spiritual area of your life or any other areas that you feel will help you experience the perfect day.

Third – Limit Yourself! You can’t do it all, so at most focus on what I like to call “Your Big Three”. Three things that if you don’t accomplish anything else, you must do these. Sticking to specific goals and focusing your effort in that direction will help you to find success and victory quicker.

Fourth – Reward Yourself! When you get this right, then make sure to reward yourself, because you are making progress and progress is what life is all about. Rewards encourage, motivate and challenge you to keep on keeping on.

Fifth – Expect Challenges And Setbacks! It is not always going to work the way you plan, because some days you are just not feeling it. The important thing is not to beat up on yourself, but to get back up on the horse and go for it the next day.

Sixth – Make Your List And Check It All Through Out The Day! This is a continual source of motivation that will help you to stay focused on the main thing, because distraction is a very real enemy.

Seventh – Enjoy Your Day! The whole point in planning your day is so you can enjoy it, so make sure that you make and take the time to do just that…

A Perfect Day!

Maybe the reason we don’t have more perfect days is because we haven’t take the time to think about exactly what a perfect day looks like. James Allen said: “You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” Our thoughts are the vehicle that moves us from one place to another. So, if we fix our thoughts, then we fix our life!

One of the best ways to fix our life is by generating a spirit of optimism that looks for the best, rather than the worst. A great way to obtain a right spirit is by gaining a sense of the direction that we wish our life to travel in. When we get this clear picture and begin to commit ourself to a plan of positive action and reaction, we tend to focus on our destination, which helps us to overcome the mundane distractions that can cause us to lose focus.

This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. -Psalms 118:24

Ask yourself: “What kind of day do I want today to be?” If today went exactly as I would like for it to, it would look like this… How will you invest the hours, minutes and seconds of today? What would you like to work on and accomplish? What kind of attitude would you like to have and keep all day long? Who are the friends and family that your want to make sure to have contact with? Where is the direction you’ve chosen going to take you by day’s end, if you get your wish?

Make the first moments of your day, the time that you determine the direction and purpose of your journey to a brighter future and more blessed life. Make some time to think about any changes you need to commit to and write down a few simple goals that inspire you to live your best life, right here and right now, today.

Think through and determine some of the specific steps you need to take to achieve this perfect day and get to work on taking those steps as soon as you can. You are the Captain of your ship, you are calling the shots and you can experience what you are looking for, if you choose to do your part. It’s really not that difficult or unrealistic. Listen to your heart, trust your gut and yield to your spirit and enjoy your perfect day, every day for the rest of your life…