Category Archives: Healing

What To Do When Life Gets You Down!

I love alone time, just sitting by myself, having time to think through the things I am facing. Slowing down and being by myself takes time and is sometimes very hard work. It’s good work, because it grows me so that I may grow through whatever life happens to throw my way.

I’ve noticed that every now and then, life throws me a curve and no matter how many positive practices I’ve put into place, sometimes it all just tends to get to me. Those negative emotions begin to flow in and start taking up space in my head, heart and life.

The negative emotions of sadness, shame, guilt anger, fear, regret and hate come flooding in and battle for control. When the negativity begns to overwhelm me and I find that my mind by itself is not strong enough to overcome and give me my freedom, then I have to resort to other discipliines.

I can analize my depression all day long and if I am not careful, I will just dig the hole even deeper. Sometimes I need more than positive affirmations, encouraging words and “attaboys” to pick myself up off the floor and get back to this thing called life.

Sometimes I need God to pick me up, dust me off, hold me close and wisper in my ear that everything is going to be okay. I need God to brush my hair out of my eyes, wipe away my tears and breathe His courage and strength into me.

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” -Isaiah 41:10

While I do my best to avoid these times of negativity, there are days that they cannot be avoided. They just have to be lived through faced, learned from and dealt with. I have discovered a few disciplines that assist me in getting my life into alignment with God’s Spirit and help me recover, learn and grow at a greater pace.

1. Take And Make Time To Write! When I write, I think through things, I look at things from different perspectives and I work my way through to the best place. Writing is release! Sometimes I write, draw, paint, craft or plant. All of these are forms of self expression which help me to get in touch with who and what I am. Release is a powerful and beautiful thing, but it does not happen my accident.

2. Serve Others! When I do something for someone else, it helps me to take my eyes off of myself, which actually helps me to see things from a much clearer perspective, which helps me to get real with myself and others. It may be writing a hand written note of encouragement, giving something special to someone to let them know I am thinking about them or just lending a helping hand…

3. Practice Gratitude! This one tends to end up on every list, because it really is a great big difference maker. Take time to make a list of all the things that you have to be grateful for. If you do this right, then you will have a very big list, because even when life is though, we are still a very blessed people. Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves of how blessed we are…

You have a greater power than you realize and when life gets tough, you just have to take the steps to remind yourself of just how powerful you are. You’ve got this, because He’s got you…

Choose The Voices You Listen To…

Do you hear voices? Of course you do, we all do. Some people learn to ignore the voices and some people can’t get the voices to shut up. You know what I’m talking about right? Those voices in your heard that tell you that you should or maybe you shouldn’t. Those voices that tell you that you are not good enough or maybe that you are too good. Those voices that remind you of your past mistakes, sins and failures.

I’ve come to relize that we have positive and negative voices inside of us, but most of us tend to turn up the volume on and listen to the negative over the positive. I’m not really sure why? Maybe it’s because we really are our own worst enemy, but we can turn that around and become our biggest cheerleader with a little bit of work and before long we can learn to listen to the positive voices over the negative and experience the life of blessing we were created for.

I have made more than my fair share of mistakes, committed more sins that I care to talk about and failed more times than I can count, but in almost all of those situations I have learned something about myself, so I do not see any of it as a waste. Instead, I choose to look at all of it as an education and with all my mistakes, sins and failures, I should be pretty close to a Doctor’s Degree!

“If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.” – 1 John 1:8

This learning from our mistakes, sins and failures is the first step in turining the volume down on the negative and up on the positive. I want to challenge you to think for a moment about where you have messed up, missed the mark and not measured up. Now – don’t get down on youself, instead ask yourself: “What can I learn from this mess?” Learn it and it will grow you. This is how we take lemons and make lemonade, because when we learn from our mistakes, sins and failures, it’s just like adding sugar. (SWEET!)

Learn the lesson life is trying to reach you as you grow to become all you were created for, because it’s what you were created for. This life is all about living and learning, so live, learn and grow on!

Be Yourself And Be Happy!

I love to hike and one of the things that I have learned about hiking is that I have to hike at my own pace or I do not enjoy the experience. I like to hike with others, but I can try to keep up with them or slow down so they can keep up with me, because then I get frustrated and miss the joy of the moment. We hikers have a saying: “Hike Your Own Hike!” which means to hike the way you want to hike – fast or slow, hard or soft, at your pace that allows you to enjoy every moment of the adventure.

Life is a lot like hiking on a trail, but so many of us are missing the joy of life, because we are trying to hike someone else’s hike. We look at “so and so” and they seem to have it made and so we try to hike their hike by looking like them, acting like them, trying to have what they have and we end up totally frustrated and can’t figure out why, so we select another “so and so” and begin the process all over, only to expereince the same frustration and miss out on the joy we were created for and that was created for us.

The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.” -Psalms 37:23-24

We have to learn in this life to hike our own hike or live our own life. Stop trying to fit in and be happy just being yourself. I am going to let you in on a little secret: Not everyone in this life is going to like you. Not everyone is always going to agree with your choices. Not everyone is going to applaude your successes and understand your failures, but your life is not for everyone else, it is for you and the people that God brings across your path for you to bless and be blessed by, while you are on your journey. When you learn this, accept this and begin to live this, you will expereince the miracle of joy, happiness and fulfillment.

Look for your trail and then once you get on it, hike it the way you want to hike it and enjoy every step of the amazing journey that has been marked out for you…